On top of the everyday ânormalâ stress that comes with this role, we now add on the pure devastation and emotional trauma that comes along with being part of todayâs society. As much as we wish we could shield our children from difficult and scary situations, it is inevitable that they will hear, see, or be exposed to the stories that are being shared. So now the question that comes to mind is, âWhat do we say as parents, caretakers, educators, and role models to children to help them understand, cope, and process the unthinkable?â
It is essential that you support your child the way you know best. Spend time with them, listen to their questions, answer their questions as openly and honestly as possible, and donât be afraid to show your emotions. Children pick up on adultsâ social and emotional verbal and non-verbal cues. They are a lot smarter than many give them credit for. The only way we can help educate the future leaders of this world is to help prepare them appropriately for the world we live in.Â
It is also important to bring up all the wonderful people out there who work very hard on a daily basis to protect, support, and keep our communities safe. You may encourage your child to share their feelings, listen, and then validate those feelings. It may also be helpful to have them draw pictures of family or friends involved, and then have them talk about their drawings. Sometimes children donât always share their feelings verbally, but their feelings will come out in different ways.Â
It is important to be extra attentive to your child and make sure there are no changes in their behavior or daily routine that would be of concern. If children ask about extra security they see, you may simply and calmly share that police, firefighters, and security guards are here to protect us and keep us safe.Â
In times of tragedy, we need to join together and support one another through recovery. Stay calm, listen to your child, answer questions using developmentally appropriate language, and expect your child to ask similar questions over and over again. Make your child feel as safe as you can by continuing their daily routine and try not to have the news broadcasting all day.Â
Situations like this are literally a nightmare and there is nothing more unsettling than feeling out of control or unable to keep your family safe. But while we are forever changed, we are not defeated.
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